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Tips for online dating success
People have always looked for ways to enrich and improve their lives by finding a friend, lover or partner. However, in our busy modern world, it can be difficult to find time and energy to meet a partner the conventional way. That's why internet dating has become so enormously popular for singles all over the world. And it's not hard to see why. More and more people turn to dating websites: both paid and free dating sites, rather than traditional places like churches, social clubs and friends' circles. The internet offers a fast communication system.
People with a common interest can almost immediately start messaging others looking for the same thing. The internet is an extremely time saving, cost effective, economical and anonymous medium. You don't have to a be rich, high profile movie star or a well known sports person to be on the internet and meeting people. Everyone is equal in cyberspace, and everyone has an equal chance to succeed. That is, if you know how! It all comes down to knowledge and expertise.
No matter how great and trendy the technology is, it is you who has to make use of the knowledge, and only you can take the initiative. Technology only helps us, as a means to make dating services quicker and often cheaper than what was once possible. Online dating success is more likely when you have polished practical communication skills. There is no single solution for effective online conversation with another person. In the article that follows, I've listed some important points to get you started. And of course the more points you follow, the more you will succeed at internet dating. Let's start with your own profile on an internet dating website (most dating websites require that you set up a 'profile' about yourself, to display to others who are searching for someone). What you've written in your profile's self-description is very important. You may start a great online conversation with someone you like, but if they look at your profile and see a clumsy presentation (like thousands other profiles), I guarantee the conversation will not last long! A poorly-written profile gives the impression that you're not serious about dating. And remember, you profile doesn't have to be 100% honest.
There is a difference between being honest and being careful about the information you present. Be honest about your best personal qualities, but not about personal details such as telephone number, address, workplace and so on. Share that private information with your online friend later, when you trust them more. There are no 'good' or 'bad' dating website profiles. But there are ' effective' and 'ineffective' ones! If you are on a dating site and about to write your own profile, work hard to create one of the effective ones. All it takes is few extra minutes of thinking, and some planning. Actual writing time will be the same, whatever profile you write (effective or ineffective). A few extra minutes can therefore make a world of difference. Your description should be a pleasing combination of funny and unique. Humor nearly always attracts someone's attention, and the more you can describe your unique character, the better.
And the profile should not be too long, or too short. And be particular. For example, don't write 'I love expensive cars' but 'I'm interested in Ferraris and Porsches'. Being more specific about interests and hobbies will invite further discussion from people viewing your profile). It's a good idea to create your profile in a word processor first, and use that software's 'spell check' feature. People expect to read well-written descriptions with good English and correct spelling. Think about your profile's title. The title is the part of your profile that people first see when searching a dating website. It's like a personal ' headline' about you. A bad title might be: 'horny stud is looking for a sexy chick'.
A catchy title: 'Skydiving accountant looking for a down-to-earth business lady'. Contact someone whose profile has no picture or/and description - don't underestimate this. You have far less competition when communicating with people who have blank profiles. People with complete profiles get lots of messages, so consider contacting people without pictures or a complete profile. Profiles with picture and a description - these require a different strategy and approach. You will need more patience and persistence, because you are competing with many other messages for this person's attention. Be smart and use the information from the other person's profile as your starting point for a message to them. Find out from their profile what they like most. Follow-up on what they like, as a conversation starter.