Love Addiction, Approval Addiction
In my experience as a counselor for 40 years, I have found that love addiction and approval addiction are far more prevalent than any other substance or process addictions. We live in a love-addicted, approval-addicted society. What does it mean to be love/approval addicted? Below is a checklist for you to see if you are addicted to love and/or approval. Believing any of these may indicate love or approval addiction. I believe that: * My happiness and wellbeing are depended upon getting love from another person. * My adequacy, lovability, and feelings of self-worth and self-esteem come from others liking me and approving of me.
* Others disapproval or rejection mean that I’m not good enough. * I can’t make myself happy. * I can’t make myself as happy as someone else can. * My best feelings come from outside myself, from how other people or a particular other person sees me and treats me. * Others are responsible for my feelings.
Therefore, if someone cares about me, he or she will never do anything that hurts or upsets me. * I can’t be alone. I feel like I’ll die if I’m alone. * When I’m hurt or upset, it’s someone else’s fault.